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Pushing for your parental rights in a contentious divorce

Divorce has a way of bringing the worst out in people. It can be an isolating, painful experience. Those who feel hurt often choose to lash out at others, and that's when divorce gets messy. One spouse decides he or she wants to use the children to prove a point. It may seem like obtaining custody is a means of "winning" the divorce and punishing the other parent. Sadly, it's often the children who pay, socially and emotionally, when parents refuse to work together in a divorce.

You know your spouse isn't keen on the idea of sharing custody. You also believe it's the only fair outcome to the dissolution of your marriage. You both love your children, and you both want to take part in their lives. That means that you will need to work together if you want to parent effectively. However, before you can work on building a healthy co-parenting relationship, you need to assert your rights as a parent.

Tips to keep your divorce “healthy”

Is there such a thing as a nice and easy divorce? Maybe for couples that were only married for two seconds and did not have enough time to make any joint purchases or have children. However, even for these couples, the process can be complicated. Once you throw in kids, the house in Belleville, retirement and investment accounts, and over ten years of marriage, things definitely get more complicated. And contentious.

While you and your soon-to-be ex-wife cannot agree on most things anymore, one thing you are in alignment with is trying to get through divorce as smoothly as possible. For some strategies to help you have a "healthy" divorce, read the tips below.

Know the penalties in Illinois for drunk driving

With football season just around the corner, people are going to head out to parties to watch the games. Other festivities might also come up. One thing that many parties have in common is that there are alcoholic beverages offered.

If you are planning to go to outings with alcoholic beverages, make sure that you are prepared to get home safely. This means either using a designated driver or another method. If you do have to drive home after the party, either don't drink or be prepared to face drunk driving charges.

Include the right details in your parenting agreement

In the event of a child custody dispute, it's only natural to believe that you'll end up in court at some point in time. While this could happen, here's something to remember: A large number of disputes are resolved before the case ever goes to court.

With the help of a parenting agreement, you can work through all the details of child custody outside of court. This doesn't mean you will never disagree with the other parent, but it does mean that you have the ability to work things out without heading to court.

Do you know how divorce mediation works?

Going through a divorce is never a simple process, but it doesn't have to be nearly as stressful and contentious as some people make it out to be.

There are times when you have no choice but to work through your disagreements in court, however, you shouldn't assume that this is your only option. Did you know that divorce mediation is becoming more common with each passing year?

An attorney can help you fight for custody of your children

Divorce is a complicated process, and it can be an emotionally difficult time as well. One of the hardest things may be the involuntary separation from your children. If your former spouse filed for divorce, he or she may have received temporary custody during divorce proceedings. That often means you only see your children during evening and weekend visits, while also being expected to pay child support. In Illinois, the laws were changed in 2016 to include different language. Custody is now referred to as parental responsibility allocation or decision making power, while child support is now duty of support.

Whatever phrase you use to describe it, parental responsibility allocation or custody is often one of the most contested aspects of any divorce. Both you and your former spouse likely want to live with your children full time. It can be hard to find a mutually beneficial compromise when emotions are high. If you are in the process of getting divorced and do not agree with your former spouse about parental responsibility allocation or other critical topics, such as asset division, you need to speak with an experienced Illinois family law and divorce attorney as soon as possible.

An attorney can help place a value on assets in a divorce

Over the course of a marriage, many couples obtain a wide variety of assets. These can range from retirement accounts and investment properties to fine art or expensive memorabilia from sports or Hollywood. When a couple decides to divorce, those non-monetary assets can become a major complication. One spouse may have an emotional attachment to some of these assets, and likely neither is able to place a clear value on them.

If you have non-traditional assets, you will need the help of an experienced Illinois divorce and family law attorney to place a reasonable value on them for court.

Continuing Legal Education Seminar in New Orleans March 9 and March 10, 2017

All of the attorneys in the firm recently attended a two day seminar which provided valuable updates on all the new laws regarding parenting time, maintenance and child support. It was taught by many leading attorneys and judges in the state and provided hours of training and case law updates in all three of these new areas, as well as insights into working with difficult and/or impaired spouses and children with disabilities. While there we were able to network with local and regional attorneys and providers and other experts, in an effort to maximize our client's resources. The seminar was both instructive and inspiring and was held in New Orleans which is rich in culture and culinary delights. The seminar provided an opportunity for enrichment and some much needed down time. The firm stayed for the weekend and , besides taking in many fine restaurants, we went on a swamp tour and enjoyed some of the local charm as well.

Fathers can have their child support modified

Are you a divorced father? Do you take great pride in providing your child with the financial support he or she needs in order to live a good life?

If you pay child support every month, you realize that this is something that will have a positive impact on your child's life. Unfortunately, there could come a time when you are unable to make your child support payment. For example, you could lose your job. Or maybe you come down with a serious illness that makes it impossible to work.

Key insurance changes you need to make during divorce

Divorce carries with it many legal and logistical issues. There may be property to divide, child custody to decide on and financial arrangements to be made. One issue that is commonly overlooked, however, is insurance.

Even though it may feel as though you have enough to contend with right now, don't put off making these key insurance policy changes to protect your future.

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